Tis the season – for what exactly, if you’re single? Getting drunk at the office holiday party or hooking up with some stranger at New Year’s aren’t such great ways to ring in Christmas or the New Year, but many people are just trying to get through all the forced merriment without losing it. Instead of a repeat of last year or another holiday season spent drowning your sorrows in cheap vodka (or expensive champagne), following are 8 holiday dating resolutions to make now

Gather your friends and acquaintances and ask them to invite their friends. Spread the holiday spirit by having your own festive holiday party to expand your social circle. You never know who you could meet. If your place is small, then meet up with them at your favorite restaurant to share the holidays together. Friends are an important part of your life, so this is the time to acknowledge them. Be with those you love – not those you feel obligated to. You’ll be a rock star.

It’s important to practice gratitude, especially during those times when we’re not feeling so grateful. It helps to write it all down, so you can see how much you’ve accomplished, how far you’ve come, or even how many small happy moments you had (like the time you painted your living room or watching the first snowfall of the season). It all counts. There’s nothing that says “sexy” like walking into a party alone and having a good time. You never know who you could meet.

Aunt Sally doesn’t need to know who you’ve been dating or what happened to your boyfriend from last Christmas. Start asking her questions about her life instead, or politely change the subject or walk away. Don’t let her ruin your holiday, or feel compelled to answer questions about your love life. Don’t discriminate – this isn’t about finding “the one,” it’s about having a good time and enjoying being single. You’ll be a rock star. Everyone will want to hang out with you.